Trauma Tales
A Candid Conversation with Ourselves “What do you think about processing your traumas? Traumas and triggers are never easy. We can never know which layer will pop out. So with all the self-work you've done so far, where do you think you are?” “Well, I could never see through some people and their battles, they were most unkind.” “Hmm, I’ve decided I won’t be kind, but I won’t be unkind either. Full stop.” That conversation stayed with me. Perhaps because trauma work is rarely neat or predictable. We often imagine healing as a calm spiritual process — meditation, journaling, deep insights, and suddenly becoming emotionally free. But real healing is layered. One trigger can suddenly bring back emotions we thought we had already dealt with years ago. Gabor Maté says trauma is not only what happened to us, but what happened inside us because of those experiences. That explains why some wounds remain hidden for years and quietly appear in relationships, reactions, fears, and even silen...