That Apology...that talk!!!

 Day 1:Face little down, the only thing intact was the beautiful red golden glitter bindi.

Day 2 face.Little down, the only thing intact was the beautiful red golden glitter bindi.

She was unusually quiet....our house help.

And at times not even responding.

On day three...I choose to break the ice and speak  to her.

I started the conversation by taking the onus of my confusion about her silence 

I'm a little confused....what to do ...say... you are unusually sad.🤐😪

And she spoke...., Didi, it was a long trip I had.After driving for 8 hours I'm so tired I don't feel like working and more than that there's a situation at home. It has really really bothered me.And I just want to be quiet and this backache is  bothering me.

I held her hand.... I apologised to her ..I didn't know that you're going through so much.She just broke down. I let her cry ...it was cathartic.After few minutes with a little grin on her face she started speaking,...Didi...it is very tough at times.Nobody understands what your body is going through, what your mind is going through. You have to be there for your work, for your family.....kids...!!!!

Didi you also feel that na at times.Now her silence transferred to me.And I could empathize with her.

Talk therapy is the greatest luxury and sharing your story can be a powerful catalyst for healing.

Her  flow of tears just won't stop.At times it's very cleansing.

I also cry and actually don't cry.It all depends on the brand of kajal I am wearing 

💃🤣

She came back to the kitchen  after a few minutes .Dressed up neatly and nicely.

The bindi was in place, the beautiful red lipstick....and  the beautiful bun...with a little flower .Simple and pleasant.

That conversation made so much of difference.She  held my hand and she said, it is nothing. Sometimes you just want somebody to listen to you.Exactly, that's what happens in the therapy sessions times.The incident....the talking ...the apology changed the energy dynamics between us.And I felt there was  spring in her feet.

My learning from this incident was....we also at times don't want to talk to anyone.We have pains and aches in our body and after travel I  just am in the totally ignore me zone.....sometimes for a day, sometimes or two days.Because one is processing the memories of the travel and where next?

The talk changed the energy between us and she repeated.... sometimes you just need to talk!!!

Talk.... apologies....because you are kind to your own self.