The power of questions.

 Sheena was confused about deciding about a particular person as her potential partner and it was getting deeper every time she would meet him. 

One of the tool in the Therapy session is ‘Space it out ‘. I asked her to “totally disconnect ‘ from the person for three days.Ask yourself questions like,what ‘stops’ me from committing to him? Sheena was definitely clearer and stronger with her decision after this exercise. 

            In the next session she shared that she locked herself in her room for few hours to unlock her doubts and all she did was asked herself some thoughtful questions. 

How do you feel about it,I asked her. 

Empowered,she replied.

       Do you want to ask yourself anything? 

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Unknown said…
I keep refraining myself from getting into a relationship. I always tell myself not to date anyone as I will get trapped into that vicious cycle and then I will have many responsibilities (which I consciously don't want) and commitments.
I keep asking myself, Do I really want to be single or am I afraid of getting responsibilities and giving commitments.

The answer I always get is the commitment issue.
It is always 60% commitment issue and 20% responsibility and 10% fear of getting trapped.

I know what is happening with me as I keep asking myself these questions to acknowledge the state of my mind. Now that I know what is happening with me, I really want to find a solution to it.
May 9, 2021 at 7:04 PM
Gwyneth said…
When there is a problem, there is ALWAYS a solution. If you didn't need a solution, there would be not problem. Writing down lists is very helpful with problem solving. One list about why you should do something, act on something, talk about something. And one as to why not. Which ever has the most answers, yes or no is the one you should trust. Hope this helps. Decision making and problem solving are very closely knitted. Lotsa luv.
May 9, 2021 at 11:06 PM
deepinder said…
It's ironic that we search for solutions, for seemingly supportive gestures to feel comfortable about the decisions we've sub- consciously taken or affirmed within ourselves. The need to conform is overpowering as free thinkers are mistaken for being rebels! Just stay with your instincts, they're on your side, always.
May 10, 2021 at 3:30 AM
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